With another Fourth of July behind us, I have to pause and laugh at how uncool I’ve become over the years. Let me rephrase that: My coolness is like an inverted bell curve. It was high before kids, it dipped at ludicrous speed when my kids were infants, and now it’s back on the rise as they’re getting older 😉
Before I had kids I would glare at my husband on the Fourth of July like: All you bought were snakes and sparklers?! Get the f— out of here and go buy something illegal.
Then my daughter was born and she was a whole four months old for her first Fourth of July and I was like: Dear God I hope all the neighbors just have snakes this year. View Post
Today I’m sharing a set of positive affirmations I say with my daughter every day, whenever there is a quiet moment between her and me.
I always pictured myself exclusively as a boy mom. I’m crude, a little too brash at times; so I sort of envisioned myself corralling a little family of wrestlers. I’ll never forget the moments and days that followed after I learned that we were having a girl. I literally couldn’t picture in my head being a girl mom (I know, totally ridiculous). Fast forward to today, and the relationship that we have together is the most sacred thing to me. Yes, I have a son, and I love both of my kids beyond any capacity I envisioned I could; but there is an extra important responsibility I feel that I have with my daughter. Perhaps I’ll dive into more detail about this in another post sometime 🙂
So here we are. My little girl is now in pre-school, and I’m finding it just as important now (as it will be in the future) to remind her that it all starts within. Her relationship with herself will always be a top priority of mine, and it’s my job to foster that relationship from the very beginning. So without further ado, these are the list of things we say today to get off on the right foot. Enjoy!
Confession: After we’re finished, I sometimes go over them again with “We” instead of “I”. Mama needs reminded too 😉
In the fullest of disclosures, I’m an absolute train wreck; and by “train wreck” I mean that if you met me personally you’d probably walk away like “WTF just happened?!”. I like to think that I ultimately pull things together just in time (the moments you see), there’s just a lot of variability, red wine, and bad words on my trajectory there 😉
Being a mom is hard (yes, being a person in general is hard, but my post today isn’t about being a general person; it’s about being a mom… so…); and in case you didn’t already know, the struggle is real. How real? I mean, like saying you’re going to the grocery store and “accidentally” ending up in Bali, real. The ironic thing is in general, you’ll probably be the happiest and most fulfilled that you’ve ever been. Again, there’s just a lot more variability, red wine, and possibly bad words between those feelings!!
So what can someone do to keep a good spirit during said variability? Well, I can’t speak for everyone, but I can share what works for me; and the truth is, staying positive tends to be very binary for me. It either comes naturally, or it’s a deliberate effort that requires more concentration than David Copperfield has. I rarely see an in-between. This effort varies by year, month, day, even hour… literally. So let’s dive in (after scrolling through some photos of us enjoying ourselves for 15 minutes the other weekend)! View Post
There are only a few other things that make my heart flutter the way it does when I see my husband sharing sweet moments with our daughter. Things get so crazy in our house with our kids, that we both try to take dedicated time for each one of our children. I grew up as a middle child, so I feel like I especially remember loving the quality time I got with either of my parents one-on-one. The other weekend, I encouraged Chris to take Ellie on a little date. Nothing crazy; just lunch and ice cream. The two of them cleaned up, dressed up, had a sweet flower exchange over by our front stairs, and went about their way 🙂 View Post
I think all women are amazing, but today I’m confessing how utterly gorgeous I think moms are. Moms are stunning! That’s basically it in a nutshell 😉
There’s several reasons why I’m asserting this; but this post was specifically inspired over the weekend when I escaped my funhouse to get a gel manicure at my local nail salon (yes!). Semi is my go-to gal there. I’ve grown to know her and the other girls a lot over the last four years, but this time Semi told me a story about how her son (now in his 20’s) used to fall asleep on her chest every night when he was a baby and a toddler. I couldn’t help but pause and look at her majestically. I found myself admiring how there was such an important part of this woman that no one will ever really know. Her child(ren) surely won’t remember that stage in life; her spouse may not ever even fully understand. I thought about how many nights she probably stayed up to rock her son to sleep, nurse him, or soothe his discomfort. ‘How she committed herself and offered her body (quite literally) to mother that sweet baby without any expectation of anything in return (she has two other kids by the way). Then I thought about how she woke up the next day, went to work, and spent a chunk of her day the same as everyone else. View Post