Rather than admit what my goals are for year 2017, I thought it would be more helpful to my readers if I discussed the biggest lessons I learned from 2016. The year 2016 was a big year of change for me professionally. I resigned from an alternative investment firm and started my own online boutique. My youngest went from being a baby, to being a toddler with the energy of a cheetah. My three-year-old daughter quite literally grew into her own person in 2016, and asks me questions that not even the Google Gods would know how to answer. Chris and I celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary, and have now been a couple for more than half our lives. So without further ado, these are the biggest lessons I learned in 2016 on business, mothering, and marriage. Enjoy!
On Business- If you’re going to fail, do it quickly
This was the greatest piece of advice that I received in 2016. My first reaction was basically immediate fear; but after reflection, I fundamentally agree with this advice. My disclaimer? Your failure(s) can be in small doses. I’ll give you an example. My parent’s owned a billiards business when I was a kid. Sources of revenue could be divided into three areas: sale of inventory (tables and cues), coin-operated table revenue (in local bars), and cue repair. Let’s say that the coin-operated tables segment was performing awful. That doesn’t mean their entire business is doomed. It means they should capitalize only on what works for them (inventory sales and cue repair) as quickly as possible. When something is not working, identify it and change it quickly. Don’t bleed out slowly.
On Mothering- Take/Make time to be a kid too
I should do an entire post on this, but I once made up a tactic when I was running out of ideas on what to do with my kids all day. It’s four formations and goes like this: 1) Everyone is in a circle. Think playing board games or doing crafts. 2) Everyone is shoulder-to-shoulder. Think going for a walk or reading a book. 3) The kids get to pretend to be adults. Think playing dress up or helping bake cookies. Lastly 4) The adult pretends they are a kid. Obviously this is the funnest and it’s the best for your soul. Think hide-and-go-seek, dance parties, building forts, walkie talkies, etc. Get on that bed and show those little fools how adults jump 😉 Let it out friends.
On Marriage- Things aren’t always going to be 50-50
I’m partially tempted to not admit this so that my husband doesn’t hold me accountable, haha. Division of labor isn’t always going to be 50-50. My kids are toddlers. For the last four years I’ve either been nursing them, rocking them, or sleeping lightly and ready to jump the minute they move. My husband has slept like a log since the 1980’s. Literally, I have seen the guy sleep through full blown tantrums in the middle of the night. When/if I wake him, he operates at a capacity of 1/1,000,000 in the middle of the night. Is it his fault that since becoming a mom I can hear people in Antarctica having dinner during the night? No. Can I expect him to offset the sleep deficit I’ve accumulated the last four years? I suppose theoretically. There’s some things that just aren’t divided 50-50. Period. Fast forward five years and hopefully he’ll be taking the reins on their extracurricular activities while I catch up on sleep. See?! It’s cyclical!
I actually had three more but I didn’t want this post to get too long. Did you have great lessons from 2016? I’d love to hear them!!!